Do not message me if you are just looking for someone to talk dirty with, seriously...
Well, about me.. I avoid the sun like a vampire (that red hair is natural), I'm one of your movie watching, Xbox playing, novel devouring, indoor types.
Apathy is the biggest issue in the world today in my opinion.. "It's not my problem" has become an epidemic.
If you become a friend, I will CARE about you.. I will take interest in you and your life.. and I expect the same in return.
I'm a full figured woman. Just getting that out there for those who judge by appearance. I'm in the process of modifying my lifestyle (diet, exercise)but if you don't like me now, I won't like you ever.
The thing about online dating.. is that.. well.. I think a lot people are not really interested in meeting anyone, and everyone has their standards set sky high.
People honestly just browse photos looking for people who look like models to have a bit of dirty text with. And you know, most people have very outdated photos.
I was talking to one guy who was using a photo over 10 years old.. he showed me a pic of him taken recently and how he looks now could pass for the father of the person in the photo he uses on his profile.
There is a difference, massive difference between infatuation and actually liking someone.
Infatuation is based on looks and bulls**t.. Meaning, someone likes the photo and basically imagines the rest.
To actually like someone you have to bother getting to know them.. and it has little to do with looks.. you like how they look because you like who they are.
So this is how things work with me.. If we get along as online friends for a few weeks, let's meet (that is, if you live within a few hours of me). Public place, no pressure. It's just meeting a new friend. There is nothing to lose.
After we meet maybe we'll date, maybe we'll stay friends.. it remains to be decided..
I don't want a fantasy relationship, I want a real live person to see, touch and care about.
Believe me if I just wanted someone to talk to as an online boyfriend I'd be on an MMO chatting up nerds.. they tickle my funnybone.
What I'm Looking For:
Intelligent, emotionally available.
I am not your down time, good time, booty call or back burner.
Seems that I need to be more specific here.
I do not do "friends with benefits" or any kind of "casual" sexual relationships. There is the option to be EITHER a friend (which is where you'll start at) or someone I date with a view to a relationship.
There is no nookie without a relationship!
I believe in chivalry and romance.
The man I would be with has the capacity and desire for a deep emotional connection and making his partner a paramount priority in his life.
Also.. I have tried really hard.. But I just can't do it.. If you type like a 12 year old and have horrid grammar such as using U as a word or having no clue which to, too, two, there, their, they're to use.. I probably won't talk to you unless I'm drunk.. and I don't drink often.
